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On a recent trip to a large retail store, I witnessed an exchange that perplexed me. The cashier was flustered at the customer, who was flustered over the higher prices of food. The exchange was comical if not down right sad. The cashier told the customer that she had a bachelors degree in math and a masters degree in chemistry and was working as a cashier. The customer told the cashier that the three gallons of milk wouldn’t last the week.It was my turn. I smiled at the cashier (for those who know me, know I smile alot) and she began her tirade about how she hated her job. She was literally turning red as she spoke to me about her loathing for what she did. I then asked, why are you here? To this she replied, “I woke up one morning and my husband was disabled. No one would hire me because I have no real life experience. I needed a job just to eat, not lose my home, and the health benefits were a must”. To this I replied, “is it healthy that you obviously dislike and resent what you are doing. Is your health better because you are here? Why not look at teaching on-line so you can stay home and care for your spouse. With a masters in chemistry, you can definitely teach. Best of all, if you still want to work here while you are searching for your job, you can. Who are you networking with who can help you out”?Reference
American Psychological Association. (1999). How expectancies shape experience. Washington, DC.
Response expectancy has the capability for one of those ah-ha moments. More aptly, it is called a paradigm (not twenty cents). In psychology there is a relevance to a theoretical concept called expectancy theory. How expectancies shape experience determines how one automatically (through overt behaviors) or involuntarily (through negative self talk) respond to situations. If you expect that only Walmart will hire you, then Walmart is what you will get. The vicissitudes of life require that you set your goals as high as possible. Never ever give up. And for pete’s sake, if you are not happy with your life, do something positive (POSITIVE) and not destructive, to change your expectancies.
Cheers,
Dr. Judy Halliday
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I love life. This despite growing up in poverty, having one alcoholic parent, one mentally ill parent, being a teen mother, and being a high school drop out. Yes I dropped out of High School. I dropped out because of family chaos. It would be easy for me to be angry at the world and blame others for the cards I was dealt. I say ”we are not created equal“. Some of us have to struggle to reach our goals, in that regard I’m like the little engine that could. For those who struggle, you too shall find balance, humbleness, happiness and love. There may be uturns and detours throughout that process. Their may be hills to climb and tracks that are broken. However, it is my firm belief that everyone can be the best they can be given their circumstance and guided by sage advice, honest friends, and given a little push. Hence, the blog. Hope something sparkles within you while you visit my site. I would be honored and humbled by your presence.
Cheers,
Dr. Judy Halliday
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What a beautiful concept!! Many people need to remember this(including myself from time to time…)!
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“The vicissitudes of life require that you set your goals as high as possible. Never ever give up. And for pete’s sake, if you are not happy with your life, do something positive (POSITIVE) and not destructive, to change your expectancies….